I have always wired and taped myself. This means not leaving stems on.
If there is a lot of material being used for a desired button hole then leaving the stems on can make this quite a
bulky item to pin to a jacket or dress. However if the theme of the wedding dictates the need to leave stems on
then I would maybe keep the button hole simple.
If roses are being used then sometimes I will pin the sepals (found at the base which are there to protect the petals), but again if a rustic look is required I might leave them as they can add a flourish.
So here is a sweet button hole - rustic variety -
with stems on. Wrapped wth some hessian
and taped so making it really light to attach to a jacket. Cute
course of a day, so be prepared that it might not survive the following day, but the one above dried to perfection and would be wonderful as a keepsake., so it might be worth asking your florist to make an extra one just for that purpose.,
I love making button holes - it is usually the last job to do before delivering the wedding bouquets. Very satisfying to see everything come together.